tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60625943789619652632024-03-13T22:15:24.565-07:00Raising Baby KAdventures in first time parents.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.comBlogger107125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-4031691532185736212013-03-26T07:05:00.002-07:002013-03-26T07:11:29.295-07:00It's almost baby time. Ahhhhhhhhh!I figured it was about time to update since I'm about 2 weeks away from my due date. First potty training. It's going well. Matthew is using the big toilet now and rarely has an accident anymore. He still wears pull ups for naps and bedtime just in case. I think we'll keep it that way for a while. Sleep has also gotten better. He goes to bed without a fight and is sleeping straight through 2-3 times a week. He does, however, wake up quite often with nightmares. I've been trying to do a little "toddler meditation" with him to calm him and give him positive, happy thoughts before bed. It seems to help a bit so I'm going to keep with it. He still has his fears and now he's added to his list. The list of things that now wake him up or bite him now includes penguin, Michael, the cat, a pumpkin with a helmet on, ghost and monster. I took a page from Toopy and Binoo (man I hate that show) and ask Matthew to be a "brave knight" who protects his animal friends. Maybe that will help? I don't know. I'm reaching here.<br />
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Matthew's eating is about the same. Dinner is still a struggle and he tries to stall bedtime by getting something to eat right at 8 pm. We have been giving in unfortunately for fear of tantrums and crap sleep. I am finally on the list for the feeding program that starts in May (only a year after we first got referred). We attended two feeding workshops and though his eating isn't as severe as some of the kids, I still worry about how this next year away from daycare will go. At the minute at least he eats for her, but come next week it's just me and him battling over getting any kind of nutrition into his growing body.<br />
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In other news, I have some updates about my ongoing eye issue. Right before New Years my left eye got suddenly dark and fuzzy. I went to an optometrist who sent me to an opthomologist who sent me to a retinologist. Initially they thought I had central serous retinopathy, which is a benign condition of unknown origin that causes swelling behind the retina that will eventually go away.<span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.230469); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(77, 128, 180, 0.230469); -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.296875);"> I had a bunch of tests done including a special retinal photograph at the hospital and they still haven't confirmed the diagnosis. The problem is that the conclusive test they want to do involves injecting a dye into my veins and they won't do it while I'm pregnant. So I have to wait until my next appointment in May before we can discuss when to do that test. For now, the tentative diagnosis is a choriadal hemangioma which is a benign tumor behind my retina that is causing swelling and vision loss. This is something that needs to be treated and won't go away on its own. I'm hoping this is truly the case because there's another option that isn't so happy. The other option they need to rule out is a choriadal melanoma. Cancer! It looks like this type of cancer can be pretty easily handled but it's still a scary prospect. All of this has overshadowed the pregnancy and haven't left me much time or energy to worry about me and baby. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.230469); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(77, 128, 180, 0.230469); -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.296875);">Which brings us to the baby. As my due date looms closer my panic attacks become more frequent. I'm. Not. Ready! I don't feel prepared. My to do list is still miles long. I'm worried about labour. I'm worried about handling two children. I'm worried about how Matthew will react. I'm just plain worried and full of anxiety. My last day of work is Thursday and it can't come soon enough. I feel a little silly taking off almost 2 weeks early but what's done is done and I'm sure I'll be glad for the break when it comes. My mom is coming down this weekend sometime to help me look after Matthew and hopefully help me prepare for the baby. I hope for her sake I don't go too late or shell be here forever! I want her here for delivery and I would like to have some help after the baby is born but we'll see how it works out. All of this was really planned out behind my back between Roland and my mom. I can see his concern for me and I'm a bit worried about how concerned he is. I have more anxiety about it all this time than the first time around. I'd better be super diligent about looking out for PPD this time. I think I'll bring it up at this week's OB appointment. I'm surprised he hasn't asked or mentioned anything about my past history. </span><br />
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Saturday was a GREAT day! He made lots of pee and even poop on the potty! He did have an accident after dinner, but overall it was good. Sunday was not so good. He made a pee first thing, but then pooped in his underwear and peed at lunchtime. I'm not sure what to make of all this. Is he really just not ready? Is this just normal potty training setbacks? How will daycare go tomorrow? I'm nervous. I don't want to undo potty training, but if we keep having multiple accidents, I'm not sure where to go from there.<br />
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Now for the sleeping. Matthew's shinanigans and fighting at bedtime had gotten worse. Much worse. The screaming at bedtime was no longer 2-5 minutes followed by silence in his room as he fell asleep, it was 20-40 minutes that required a visit or three to calm him down. I decided to change things up a little. I started to entertain his baloney for longer than I would have before. I let him use the potty 5 times, let him tell me story after story, get up and down etc. Finally I would tuck him in and tell him very firmly that I would return if he stayed in his bed and was QUIET! Night one, this worked brilliantly. The next night, Roland tried the same thing and again, success. And success the night after that. It seems he needs to talk through his fears a little before bed. Matthew would tell me that Michael wakes him up, or penguin, or Mya our cat. We told them to "go way!" We had to check a few times to make sure they had indeed gone away. Last night Matthew added a new fear to his list. Apparently pumpkin was waking him up. The pumpkin was hiding in Matthew's bed, in his book bin, on the wall and sneaking around outside in the hall. We sent everyone to my room and he went to bed quietly. With no fussing.<br />
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This strategy seems to be helping a bit with the sleeping. He's slept straight through twice and other nights he's woken up only once or twice from a bad dream or having to pee. Last night he woke up at 4 am screaming "nooooo noooo nooooo!" When I calmed him down and asked him "no what?" he explained that he wanted to eat his dinner (that he had refused). So looks like this kid has a vivid imagination and is a bit of a worrier. Hopefully talking a lot with him before bed will ease his fears and help him sleep.<br />
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I received a call from the behavioural therapist from the sleep workshop last week. Well, a message. She wants to know how it's going. I tried to call back a few times but was unable to reach her. Hopefully I'll be able to reach her this week and we can discuss what's been happening. I'm not sure if we still need support. Things seem to be getting better, if only by a little. But it could just be another trick.<br />
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Eventually something has to give right? The child doesn't eat, or sleep, is language delayed and is failing at potty training. We have to get something right eventually right?Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-62786188277809435282013-01-08T18:22:00.001-08:002013-01-08T18:22:25.398-08:00OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!I'm going crazy! Totally crazy! Matthew had a horrible day at daycare. He had 2 bad pee accidents and a poo accident and the daycare provider's potty trained son even followed in Matthew's footsteps and peed in his pants because "Matthew pees his pants". When I picked Matthew up, he was soaked through nap and he refused to try to pee before we left. On the way home he said he had to pee, so I stopped at Wendy's and tried to get him to go. He refused. We had a chat, he refused, cried, said it hurt (because he had to pee). When I put him back in the car he said he had to pee, but I kept going. He started crying because he said he had to pee and I yelled at him. I got so mad. I yelled. I knew as I was doing it I needed to calm down and not yell but I couldn't control myself. I was so mad. We managed to make it home without an accident, but by that point I was crying. Matthew peed on the potty as soon as we got home and immediately asked for a treat. I started with the yelling again and then went upstairs to cry in the bathroom. Matthew followed me, sat on the floor, looked up at me and said "stop Mommy". I managed to put a movie on for Matthew without yelling at him, but I could not calm myself down. I couldn't make dinner. It was all I could do to not yell at Matthew or get mad at him anymore. I was so mad at myself for losing it, but I still couldn't get my emotions under control. I felt so guilty that I had treated him like that, especially over potty training. What if I just scarred him? He's just being a kid, why did I have to lose my cool? Why am I so emotional? Why can't I stop crying?<br />
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I basically did my best to ignore Matthew for much of the rest of the night. I did take some time to snuggle him and apologize and tell him that I loved him and he was my big boy, but I couldn't do much more than that. I was just so done. Roland made dinner and took care of Matthew and put together the new shelving unit with him. Finally it was time for bedtime. I dreaded doing it, but decided I was going to do my best to relax. Last night's bedtime and the night before were absolutely terrible. Matthew kept running back and forth and back and forth and back and forth to use the potty, or try to anyway, constantly asking one of us to help him. It ended in lots of screaming and a really really long bedtime. Tonight I vowed to stay as calm as possible and tolerate as much as I could so I could avoid the screaming fits. Matthew did his usual fooling around. He used the potty twice. We had to unclog the toilet because he had snuck in earlier to throw about 20 flushable wipes into the toilet. He wanted cream, wanted to roll the lint off his jammies, wanted a new "nighttime underwear" etc etc. Finally I got him to snuggle in the chair. He was talking non-stop: "penguin wake me up", "kitty wake me up", "go away kitty", "go away penguin" etc. I tried to talk to him telling him I would talk to the penguin and the kitty and tell them to go away and not come in his bed. He wanted me to go downstairs and hit the penguin so I told him I didn't hit anyone and I would talk to the penguin instead. I then changed the subject and told him he was a big boy and he had big boy nighttime underwear on and he didn't have to worry about peeing a little because the special underwear would keep him dry. I was upstairs talking to him for 50 minutes and we finally settled on "if you stay in your bed and you're quiet, Daddy will come and check on you". For some reason this finally worked. I think he was just tired enough.<br />
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So we'll see how overnight goes. I hope the worst is over and things will start to settle soon. I hope he'll get used to going potty at other places other than home. I hope he relearns how to go to bed without a fight or shinanigans. I hope he learns to sleep through the night finally. I'm so so so tired of this. I'm losing more and more of my cool the bigger I get. I'm getting sore in places I never was sore with Matthew. I feel huge already and I'm only 27 weeks. It's going to be a long 3 months and then the real hell begins. I'm scared.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-61556352907404306902013-01-06T18:10:00.001-08:002013-01-06T18:20:58.801-08:00Potty Training ContinuedSaturday we had a good day. Other than waking up wet, Matthew had a perfect morning. No accidents, lots of pee and poo on the potty. My sister in law showed up at 10 am for my "Christmas Surprise". Roland sent me to a spa for a "Mommy to Be" spa day. I got a massage, pedicure and manicure. When I returned, my sister in law said Matthew made some good pee pee for her. YAY! Matthew had a late nap and stayed dry the whole time. We even went out to a restaurant and walmart and he stayed dry, even tried out his new potty for the big toilet. Shortly after we got home however, he had an accident. DOH!<br />
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Overnight Matthew woke up at 1:30 and peed, but then woke up at 4 and was crying and needed a snuggle. He was up at 6:30. Roland got up with him and apparently he made a poo on the potty, but had a pee accident shortly after. He did great for the rest of the day, but had a poo accident in the afternoon. Tonight we are trying overnight pull ups. Hopefully that will keep him dry and prevent unnecessary wake ups. Fingers crossed.<br />
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Tonight's bedtime was a little late due to a late nap, as usual. The Matthew shinanigans tonight included being hungry, wanting to pee, twice and then peeing on his own and needing help pulling up his new "nighttime underwear". After helping him with his pull up and explaining that they're special nighttime underwear and will keep him dry, he finally relaxed enough to stay quiet in his bed.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-21534473923289306082013-01-04T19:11:00.001-08:002013-01-04T19:11:30.607-08:00Potty Training Day 4Last night Matthew had pee at 11:30 when Roland woke him up. He woke up wet at 1:30, then woke up again at 3 and we told him to go back to bed. He came to my bed dry at 6 and we snuggled/slept until 8. Ok ok. I know we shouldn't have slept in like that but man am I tired.<br />
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Matthew had one accident this morning but 2 successes before we left for daycare. Matthew ran off on me while I was packing the car and lost his treat from potty. Looking back, taking away the treat was a mistake. Matthew did not want to go to daycare. He did not want me to leave and he made it clear he did not want to go potty at daycare. He had a breakdown over being redirected from hitting a kid with a drumstick. Eventually he settled and I left for my appointment.<br />
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The report from daycare is he did not poo while he was there, refused to use the potty and had an accident at naptime. Matthew made it home dry and made a pee once he got home. Unfortunately he had a poo accident. He ran to the bathroom but nothing happened. Not too long after he ran again, but he had an accident in his underwear. He remained dry the rest of the night and made a few pees.<br />
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Matthew is a bit obsessed with getting his treats. He asks for them constantly. He'll run to the potty, sit on it and produce nothing then demand a treat. He gets upset when he can't get treats. I think I may have overplayed the treats a bit. We've also run into a bedtime nightmare. He now stalls bedtime by constantly running to the potty. He usually doesn't produce. I'm halfway between letting him try and cutting him off. I started telling him to go by himself. He's capable of pulling down his pants and sitting on the potty and he did it a few times. But then I had to check to see if he'd done anything and help him pull his pants back up. I was getting very very frustrated. I put up with the shinanigans longer than I should have. I finally left him screaming at the gate. At one point I heard the toilet flush. Ok, what did he just flush? I had to check. I "think" he peed and poured the pee into the toilet by himself. I really have no idea. I managed to get him tucked in, but as soon as I left he followed me and started screaming. After 15 mins of screaming Roland went up to deal with it. More pee, wiping the nose, some vaseline on the nose and Matthew finally settled down to bed.<br />
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It's official. I'm crazy. It was a stupid idea to get rid of diapers for bedtime in a kid who hasn't learned to fall asleep on his own or sleep through the night yet. But now what? Do I go back and put him back in diapers? Will that ruin potty training? Will bedtime get better eventually? It is only day 4. Matthew also had a hard time with daycare. Will that get better too? Is it just because potty is new? Is it because he hasn't been to daycare in 2 weeks? How long do I wait. NONE of this was covered in the e-book! BLAH!<br />
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Ok. So the next update is about me. I had my 26 week OB appointment today and the gestational diabetes test. My blood pressure is perfect, baby is head down, I'm measuring a week ahead and everything looks good. Except that I gained 9 lbs. 9 lbs!!!! in 4 weeks!!!??? WHAAAAAA???? Oh dear. My doctor didn't say anything to me about it but I'm worried I'm going to gain out of control and have more to lose at the end of this thing. I hate the stupid scale. Blah.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-47628643197446705342013-01-03T03:51:00.000-08:002013-01-03T18:30:09.092-08:00 3 Day Potty Training Day 3Last night I woke Matthew at 10:30 to take him to the potty. He actually peed!!! Unfortunately he wouldn't go back so easily. There was a little back and forth before I finally got him to go back. He woke up at 5 am and wanted in my bed. I checked his pants and they didn't seem wet. He didn't want to use the potty but wanted a drink so I got him one. He woke up at 6 with wet underwear, but not not wet pants, so it looks like he only had a little accident. Today I'm determined to catch him before he makes a poo. Since he's up a little early, it might be a while, but I'm watching him like a hawk. Poo on the potty is our last challenge and I hope to conquer it today.<br />
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We had one half accident just after breakfast and one successful pee on the potty after that. I was waiting and waiting for him to have to poop and after lunch it finally happened. He looked a little funny so I asked him, then we ran to the potty and he spent a few minutes working on it and SUCCESS! He made a poo on the potty! Just in time for nap. Matthew was really excited and we called his Auntie M. Then we had a successful and DRY nap. After nap, he didn't want to go pee on the potty and then he had an accident. Oops. He had a nice pee on the potty before dinner, but he kept asking for M&Ms. Kiddo likes his candy for sure.<br />
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Before bedtime, we had to go visit Oma and Opa before they went on their vacation. He had a pee in the potty before we left and stayed dry for the visit. After bath, Matthew came to say goodnight to me. I reminded him to stay dry and he said he had to go, so off he ran, all the way upstairs since we moved the potty. He MADE IT! Woot! He made one more pee before bed and put up a fuss when he told Roland to go. He settled down shortly after though.<br />
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So I guess we wake him up at night for a few more nights? I'm thinking he won't be able to make it through the night without wetting the bed. I'll probably bring back diapers for nighttime starting Monday. I think it might disrupt sleep training, but I'll reread the e-book and make a decision by Monday.<br />
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Overall I'd say day 3 was a success. And it wasn't really a true day 3 because half of day 2 was spent in a diaper at a doctor's office. Tomorrow we'll be at home until 11:30 then I'm taking him to daycare for the afternoon. I've already prepped his daycare provider who is excited he's using the potty. I just hope having another boy using the potty at daycare will keep him on the roll he's on.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-64183010062963293002013-01-02T16:23:00.000-08:002013-01-02T16:23:02.367-08:003 Day Potty Training Day 2Well, as per the 3 Day Potty Training technique I woke Matthew up 1 hour after he fell asleep to take him to the potty. He was half asleep and didn't have to pee so I walked him back and tucked him in. I didn't hear boo from him after that. I woke him again at 5 am to take him to the potty and this time he was wet, so I changed him and the bedding and put him back to bed. He slept until 7:30 and had a dry diaper! Woot! I half think waking him up pre-emptively prevented him from waking up on his own. Who knows. We'll see what tonight brings.<br />
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So we got up and I tried to get him to try the potty, but he didn't want to. Shortly after breakfast, as I was preparing fruit, he said "uh oh pee pee". Low and behold he was peeing all over the floor. I rushed him to the potty and sat him down. He had also pooed in his underwear so we had to clean that up too.<br />
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I then had to call the optometrist. I was supposed to call on Monday, but didn't want to be bothered, so then I had to wait until today. See, on Friday night as I was going to sleep I noticed a dark patch in the field of vision of my left eye. I didn't notice it after that until we came in from the lake on Saturday. It felt like I had a bit of snow blindness, but just in my left eye. I didn't have much time to think about it because I had to drive home. The drive home was annoying. My left eye was a bit off. By Sunday I realized everything was just a little blurry and dark.<br />
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Because I didn't call on Monday, I spent all day Tuesday consulting Dr Dad and Dr Google (only one of them is a qualified optometrist). I started to notice that the dark spot in my left eye was flower shaped and a bit on the red side. I started to worry about a retinal hemorrhage, so today I managed to make a last minute appointment with an optometrist. I had 30 minutes to get both Matthew and myself dressed, out the door and all the way across town for the appointment. We made it only a few minutes late. After many tests, pupil dilating drops and pictures with the retinal camera, the Dr diagnosed me with central serous retinopathy. Which is swelling behind the retina. There is no known cause, but it is linked with stress. "Have you had any stress lately?" Um... I'm 6 monthe pregnant with a toddler who doesn't sleep or eat and a husband who works 6 days a week who just threw out his back becoming completely useless to me. The treatment? Nothing. It just has to run it's course and should take 2-3 MONTHS to clear up! GAH! I feel like I need glasses. The difference between the two eyes feels weird and is definitely going to drive me nuts. I'm waiting for the Dr Office to call back with an appointment with an opthemologic specialist to confirm the diagnosis. Hopefully they can squeeze me in this week. Now I'm REALLY wishing I had made the call on Monday.<br />
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So what does all this mean for potty training? Well, we had to rush out to the Dr so I had to put a diaper on Matthew and we didn't come back until naptime so he was in a diaper most of the day. Boo. Once he woke up from his nap, I took off Matthew's diaper and put his underwear back on and reminded him to keep his underwear dry and let me know when he had to make a pee. I watched him closely while I made dinner and kept reminding him. Around 5 pm Matthew says "I have to make pee pee" and he starts running to the bathroom. I followed behind him and helped him with his underwear. He sat on the potty and PEED! No mess! No accidents! I didn't have to "catch" him and carry him to the potty, he went on his own! We had to get a sticker and M&Ms and a prize for filling up his "dry underwear" chart and then we called Grandpa! Matthew was so excited!<br />
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Finally Daddy came home and we sat down to eat dinner. Well, Roland and I sat down to dinner, Matthew refused as usual. Halfway through dinner, Matthew starts running to the bathroom. He didn't say a word, he just ran, so I followed him and helped him with his underwear. More pee! He went all by himself. Didn't even tell us, just went! WOOT! Success!!! More M&Ms and big cuddles! Matthew claimed he had to pee a few more times, then asked for M&Ms. "No M&Ms, sorry buddy. Next time."<br />
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Nearing the end of day 2 and he's starting to get it, even though half the day was wasted at the optometrists office in a diaper. I'm hoping this bodes well for day 3, but I'm not looking forward to no diaper at bedtime. Fingers crossed.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-46203645001473102972013-01-01T08:41:00.000-08:002013-01-01T13:40:22.024-08:00Sleep Training Hell Plus Potty Training = WHAT ON EARTH AM I DOING?It's been 2 weeks since we implemented the new strategies. Results? Nada! I'm REALLY REALLY hoping it's just because a week of that was spent at Grandma's for Christmas. New surroundings plus excitement of Christmas is not a good combination for sleep training. Last night was New Year's Eve and we were supposed to go to a friends. However, Roland threw out his back over Christmas and it only got worse once he got home. He ended up on muscle relaxers and anti-inflamatories that conked him out for the entire day. So we cancelled our original plans and went to my sister in law's to hang out with the kids. Matthew partied like a rock star with the big kids all the way past midnight. When we got home I had to rock Matthew a little to get him settled down and then he fell asleep. Then comes the screaming at 2 am. I have no idea what was wrong, I'm guessing a nightmare, but Matthew was screaming and inconsolable standing in the middle of the hall. Some rocking and cuddling and he calmed down and fell back asleep. He woke up crying again at 4 am, then wanted in my bed at 6. I put him back both times, but when he came back at 7 I gave up and let him in my bed. Of course I couldn't sleep at that point and he was awake on and off for a while until he fell asleep and then was wide awake at 8:30. Colour me exhausted.<br />
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On top of all this, I had decided months ago that Christmas Break would be my chance to start potty training. I've spent months pumping myself up for this, so when I got a hold of the 3 Day Potty Training book I decided New Year's Day was my chance. I'd have 3 days solid to do the training, and then another 3 days before he has to go back to daycare. Lots of time right? This morning I was really doubting my decision to start potty training now. I'm sooooo tired and Roland isn't very helpful right now. But I started anyway.<br />
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First things first, I got dressed and ready, then got Matthew changed and into a new shirt and diaper. Then we threw all of his diapers away. Matthew was really excited to throw out his diapers. Then I got towels, rolled up the area rug and put Matthew's potty in the downstairs bathroom. Now it was time to get Matthew in his big boy underwear and show him where the potty was. So we through out his diaper and put on the underwear and I got his breakfast ready. Shortly after breakfast I hear "Mama, me made poo poo". Ok, here we go. I rushed him to the potty and when I tried to take his underwear off, Matthew cried. He really didn't like the idea of having to put his poop in the potty. By the time I struggled with him to get his underwear off, his poop was on the floor. Ok, no big deal. I put the poo in the toilet and wiped his bum, which he really didn't seem to like. It took a bit of doing to get it all cleaned up, but we put on a new pair of underwear and put the dirty ones in a plastic bag. Not 5 mins later as I was fixing his truck, he pees all over the floor. Ok, rush to the bathroom, sit on the potty. He doesn't have any more pee, so we clean up and put new underwear on.<br />
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I keep reminding Matthew to let me know if he has to pee and then I start checking to see if he's dry. I gave him 3 stickers in 15 minutes for having a dry diaper. Hopefully this will help. It's been a few hours since his last accident and I'm just waiting for the next one. He doesn't seem to want to drink so I have to start pushing that so he has to pee again. He's getting tired, so we might have to have a potty break before nap very soon.<br />
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I probably shouldn't be potty training and sleep training at the same time, but we've been sleep training for 2 years so really, what's the difference. And there's no end in sight to the sleep training, so I might as well get something accomplished while I have the chance. Am I crazy? Probably. And I'll probably be slightly more crazy by the end of these three days. Oh help me.<br />
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I caught one pee mid-pee and he got a sticker and some M&Ms for peeing on the potty. He also stayed dry through his nap, so that's another sticker and some M&Ms. He seemed very excited when HE noticed he was dry. Fingers crossed for the rest of the day.<br />
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Whelp. That didn't last long. We had another accident and Roland was a little slow in catching it so we didn't end up with any pee on the potty. Le sigh.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-75875136484029788952012-12-17T18:50:00.000-08:002012-12-17T18:50:20.868-08:00Sleep Workshop 2.0: Or Sleep Training Take One Million?Roland and I both went the the second part of the sleep workshop. We brought our sleep and behaviour logs with us. There was only one other family there, so it was 2 hours of one on one time. She reviewed our logs, told us we were doing great with our current plan, but pointed out something I figured she would. We're great throughout the night at sending Matthew back to bed, but by 5 am, we're done and just let him crawl in bed with us. This has to change. She couldn't seem to figure out what the trigger was for waking him up. I have no idea myself, except to test us again and again in hopes we'll give in and let him sleep with us. So we set up some goals and developed some strategies to encourage change.<br />
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#1 Get Matthew to go to bed without a fight.<br />
#2 Get Matthew to sleep through the night until a reasonable hour (6-6:30 am)<br />
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To reach these goals she recommended a few things:<br />
1. Leave Matthew longer before checking on him after putting him to bed. Or only go back up if there's a need, and wait 5 mins before going up.<br />
2. Try pushing bedtime by an hour or two so he's utterly exhausted and doesn't fight bedtime.<br />
3. Reward Matthew for staying in bed. (We couldn't figure out what that reward would be, stamp maybe?)<br />
4. Matthew is no longer allowed in mommy and daddy's bed at 5 am. March him back no matter what time.<br />
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We decided to forgo pushing bedtime. Roland didn't think it would work and didn't want to give up our entire evening to keeping Matthew awake until the point of exhaustion. I wanted to try, but we decided to wait 2 weeks to see if going without this strategy would still yield results. We couldn't figure out an appropriate time or reward to give Matthew for staying in bed, so we didn't end up doing this. We stopped checking on him altogether, so there would be no time to give him a reward.<br />
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So far bedtime has still resulted in screaming. The first two nights there was much more screaming than normal. It does seem to be getting better, but tonight might just be a fluke. Matthew is still waking in the night 1-2 times on average. We are able for the most part to tell Matthew to go back to bed, but we've been having to get up more often to march him back. Last night was utterly ridiculous. Matthew woke up 6 times! He had an early day and an early, short nap plus much excitement at Christmas at Oma and Opa's and he passed out at 7:30 during bedtime story. He woke up at 10 wanting in bed and water, he woke up at 10:45 wanting water, 11:15 wanting in the bed, 12 wanting to be tucked in, 1:30 saying he was hot, 3:30 screaming "mama no go!" and finally was up at 5:50 for the day. Good god!<br />
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Tonight's bedtime routine went great. I'm trying to teach him to tuck himself in so he doesn't wake up at night just to have me do it for him. He told me he wanted the door mostly closed, so I closed it behind me and went downstairs at 8:15. I haven't heard a peep since. He did say something peculiar when we were snuggling before bed. He kept saying "rawr wake me up" or "penguin wake me up". I'm not sure if he's got imaginary friends or if he's having nightmares, or seeing monsters or making up random excuses. I really wish I could get inside his head and find out what is going on in there.<br />
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We're going to stick with this plan hopefully through the Christmas holidays at Grandma's. Not too sure how well that will work and fully expecting sleep to be a struggle while we're there, and to have some undoing to do when we come back. In the new year, the behaviour therapist is going to call us to ask how we're doing and to reassess our sleep plan. We're hoping things are fantastic, but she can recommend other resources if need be including a home visit. I'd love a home visit, but I'd love it more not to need one. I was planning on potty training over Christmas break, but if we're still in the midst of sleep training hell, it might be best to only work on one thing at a time.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-77915875987180894892012-12-03T15:21:00.002-08:002012-12-03T15:21:55.559-08:00Time To Sleep WorkshopSo I went to the workshop last week. They covered causes of sleep issues and 5 different sleep training methods, some of which I had never heard of. We are not to try any of these just yet. For the next two weeks, we are to simply track what happens at bedtime and throughout the night and bring it back for them to analyze. Then we can make a plan. <br />
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So far, everything has been going the way it's been for the last few months. He is great until we leave the room, then the crying starts. We've been leaving him for longer and longer hoping he'll fall asleep waiting for us to return. He usually doesn't, at least not until 20 mins after the first 20 min check. So the bedtime routine is still 1-1 1/2 hours long and he still doesn't fall asleep until after 9:30. Last night he slept through until 5:30. Probably a fluke. I know he wakes up at 5:30 because he wants in bed with us, and we let him. We should probably stop that too, but we're tired and if he sleeps until 5:30 without waking up, we consider that a win. We usually get up between 6 and 6:30 anyway. <br />
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So I guess I'll check back next week after we have our second workshop session. Maybe Matthew will be magically sleeping by then, but at the very least, I know we'll have a plan. And if that doesn't work? I don't want to think about that right now. Let's just hope it works.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-46593751534727003692012-11-26T17:13:00.001-08:002012-11-26T17:52:44.858-08:00Sleep Hell and Some BIG NewsSleep re-training is not working so well. We can get through most of the bedtime routine ok, including peeing on the potty, but as soon as I say "Ok, mommy is going to leave and I will come back" Matthew comes running out of his room crying. I have to close the gate and he stands there screaming, crying and shaking the gate with me telling him "I will come back when you're in your room and quiet". Eventually he goes back to his room to wait for me. I come in and he bear hugs my neck for a while. When I get uncomfortable, I tell him I'm going to leave again and Daddy will come back. We take turns coming and going until he finally goes to sleep or cries himself to sleep. It's been this way for ... I don't even remember. A month? Two? I have no idea anymore.<br />
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I went to a feeding workshop last week at ErinOakKids (the same place we do speech therapy at) and came to a revelation. Matthew's speech language pathologist (SLP) noticed a lopsidedness in his mouth when he talks. I explained that he had some nerve damage at birth that all the nurses thought was due to a forceps delivery. No one was able to explain what caused it, but they seemed to think it would correct itself. I attribute it to being posterior, engaged in my pelvis (causing me excruciating pain) for the last 6 weeks before delivery. When he was a newborn it was really noticeable, especially when he cried, but as he got older, I stopped noticing it. When my SLP mentioned it I realized it had affected him more than I thought. Due to this nerve damage, Matthew has trouble articulating some words. He can't pronounce words with a different consonant sound in the beginning and the end, even if he can say the sounds individually. So words like duck and up sounding like "cuck", and words like snowman end up sounding like "ho-man". During the feeding workshop I realized this same nerve damage has led to an oral hyposensitivity. Since his nerves are damaged in his mouth, he needs more stimulation, which is why he drools a lot, likes sweet food, overstuffs his mouth and constantly wants to chew on everything, still, at 2.5 years old, including his own shirt, or the pillowcase. This can help explain some of his strange eating habits, and hopefully we can investigate this further with ErinOak and get some occupational therapy to help him overcome this issue.<br />
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Tomorrow night I'm going to a sleep workshop put on by ErinOakKids. I'm not expecting miracles from this workshop, but maybe I will have some sort of revelation like I had with the feeding workshop. Maybe not, but I'm willing to try.<br />
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And now for the BIG news! It's been so long since I blogged, and a lot has happened. For starters, I'm pregnant! 20 weeks to be exact! Yeah. That's how long it's been! We had an ultrasound at 18 weeks and the ultrasound tech was 70% sure the baby is a girl. Roland isn't comforted by the 70%, but I'm going to run with it. We didn't see any boy parts, that part I'm sure about. Baby girl is due April 10, 2013. Matthew will be 2 months away from 3. The age difference is a little more than we had planned, but Mother Nature has her own timetable. In the end, I think I'll be pretty happy with the age gap and hopefully Matthew will be potty trained before baby arrives (if not by Christmas). In other news, all our decor for our new home has been chosen and the closing date is May 16. Yep, that's right, one month after baby is due. This is one occasion where I'm hoping the house is a bit late.<br />
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So that's it. Just a little update. Maybe I'll be able to keep up. Maybe not. If I have any major revelations tomorrow, I'm sure I'll blog about it.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-81068241844102859782012-09-06T17:56:00.002-07:002012-09-06T17:56:25.884-07:00Sleep Re-TrainingAfter the last weekend of the summer it was back to reality, back to work, and back to sleep training. There was a lot of fooling around at bedtime and a lot of frustration, which resulted in me walking out and locking the gate behind me. Cue the screaming, and crying, and calling for mama. When I went back up to calm the screaming he was standing ON the gate! This went on for 1 1/2 hours. The same thing happened the next night when Roland tried to put him to bed, only Roland got more frustrated than I did and sort of yelled at him to go back to bed. This is something we need to work on.<br />
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Tonight Matthew wanted to sit on his potty after storytime. I had to sit on the toilet next to him of course. When I told him he could flush the toilet if he peed in the potty, he actually went pee! Yay! Then there was crying when he flushed the pee and it was gone. He wanted to poo on the potty, and there was lots of fooling around. Finally I got him ready for bed and really talked up being a big boy for peeing in the potty and big boys go to sleep on their own. I told him I would be downstairs. He cried on and off and was quiet for a while and I thought we were good until he ran to the gate and started screaming. I walked him back to bed and cuddled him and talked to him and told him I would check on him in a few minutes if he stayed in bed and didn't cry. So I suppose I should go check on him now.<br />
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I think I may have woken him up when I went to check on him! I gave him a kiss and rubbed his back and said goodnight. I think we have success! Now if only we could get him to stop waking up at night!Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-33249821302636480472012-07-26T07:22:00.002-07:002012-07-26T07:22:41.932-07:00It's Been a MonthIt's been a month ... since I reported that wonderful miracle of sleep. How's it going? Um...not great. We're back to square one. With going to the cottage and my parents and back home, and back up and back home again, his sleep has reverted back. He hates sleeping above the garage at the cottage. He knows when we leave the room we're really far away, plus it's hot and stuffy and it's not his usual bed. It's slightly better at my parent's house because at least it's air conditioned, but it's still a change and Matthew doesn't do well with change. We've put the crib mattress on the floor beside our bed. Now one of us has to stay until he falls asleep. Ok, not one of us, ME. I suppose we should have kept the "sleep training" stuff at the cottage.<br />
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Now that we're halfway through summer, I don't really know what to do. Not only does he not fall asleep easily anymore, but he's waking up multiple times a night, sometimes he's up for hours. Even last night at home he ended up in our bed because he kept waking up. I was trying to avoid the bed and put him on the mattress on the floor, but a big scary crash of lightning scared him and woke him up. He spent the better part of 2 hours in the wee hours of the morning squirming around and kicking me, pulling my hair, and climbing on me.<br />
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So what do we do? Sleep training at the cottage? How on earth should we go about that? And will it all be ruined when we come back home? Wait out the summer with crappy sleep and try again in the fall? Ack! You're TWO kid! Time to SLEEP!!!!Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-84751901146928429032012-06-25T18:31:00.000-07:002012-06-25T18:31:17.381-07:00A Miracle in the Making?4 nights of sleep last week. FOUR! Night 5 was a few minor nightmares, but a minor blip in the dream. The weekend however was another story. First weekend at the cottage and Friday night was HOT. I couldn't sleep to save my life and Matthew woke up a few times. He ended up in bed with us for a little while which didn't work out AT ALL because a) it's a double, not a queen and b) silly billy couldn't sleep. Saturday night he wouldn't go back to bed after he woke up at 11:30 so he ended up in bed with me. Roland didn't come to bed until after midnight and found a kiddo on his side. I told him to move him, but he slept on the floor instead. Strange man. Matthew woke up some time later and was transferred to his bed. Roland had handled the bedtime routine.<br />
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That brings us to tonight. I did bedtime last night and there were a few minor wakeups. Tonight I did bedtime again and all was going well and I was fully expecting to have to trade off for the actual putting into bed part, but Matthew was all snuggly with me, then got down and crawled into bed. I covered him in his blanket and kissed him and he said "bye". Uh? Is that it kid? No bargaining? No "I need a new diaper"? No "Daddy"? Um... ok. So I left. SUCCESS!!!Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-16013045347032063182012-06-19T17:42:00.001-07:002012-06-19T17:42:28.879-07:00Keeping those fingers crossed.Bedtime still seems to go easier for Roland. Every time it's my turn for bedtime I get through two stories, he brushes his teeth nicely, then we rock and sing a song. As soon as I get to the end of the song it's "bum, poo poo, pee pee". He wants bum cream, says he has a dirty diaper, wants to sit on the potty, anything to avoid going to bed. That's when Roland has to rescue me. I have no idea how to fix this. BUT, he slept through the last two nights in a row! I really do hope it's starting to stick. I am tired of this working for 2 nights, then 3 weeks of hell business. PLEASE let this stick!Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-38515527079463064112012-06-14T18:43:00.001-07:002012-06-14T18:43:55.567-07:00Bedtime Success!Last night I did bedtime after an extended ride on Matthew's tricycle. All was well until it was time to say goodnight. Matthew doesn't want to let me go and lay down, so I ask if he wants Daddy to put him down. He says yes. I get Daddy, and in 1 1/2 mins, Matthew is in bed and quiet. I heard not a peep from him ALL NIGHT! In the morning, since I took the day off, I went to the bathroom when I woke up at 9 AM, and Matthew was laying in his bed, awake, but quiet. SCORE!<br />
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Tonight I decided to share bedtime with Roland. So I read one story, then Roland read one story and did teeth brushing and voila, Matthew was in bed. Apparently he kept telling Roland "bye". We'll see how well this sticks. Fingers crossed we've crossed the threshold and are going to see success just rolling in from now on. I really need this!Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-37077001376109342312012-06-10T17:42:00.001-07:002012-06-10T17:44:33.478-07:00Happy Birthday Mr Man!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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This weekend was Matthew's parties. Yes, I said parties, plural. Cause I'm a crazy mama and needed to have one party for his little friends, and one for family. I had a lot of it planned out and prepped in advance, so it went fairly smoothly, and I had Roland to help me. In the morning, I prepped the rest of the food and Roland cleaned. It worked out pretty well. Unfortunately, my camera is broken (I really need to take it to Henry's to get it fixed) so I didn't get any pictures. However, my friend did manage to take some pictures and she sent them to me. YAY! I'm hoping a few more friends took pictures and they send them my way. Maybe my aunt will send me some of her pictures since I didn't have a camera for his family party either :(. I really should have gotten my camera fixed last weekend. It had been working every 4th picture, but decided yesterday to quit completely. Guess I should go get it fixed ASAP! Anyway, here is the hoard of photos I have so far.<br />
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<br />Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-30363245902805547362012-06-10T17:31:00.003-07:002012-06-10T17:31:29.218-07:00Same Crap, Different DayIt doesn't seem to make much sense to go day by day anymore. It's pretty much always the same: Matthew fights me at bedtime and wakes up once. Lately he's been waking up and not getting out of bed. Not sure what that's about. Maybe he needs more light to see? I guess we'll leave the door more open tonight. Sometimes Roland has to rescue me at bedtime because Mr Man just wants to fool around with me. When Roland does bedtime, Matthew tells him "bye" and Roland is able to leave without a peep from the boy. Le sigh. Tonight's bedtime is getting pushed a bit late. Matthew had a lot of excitement this weekend with all the Birthday Party stuff, so he had a 3 hour nap this afternoon. He must have woken up sometime before 5 because when I got up from my nap, his door was wide open and his blanket was on the floor. He must have woken up and come to see us, but we were both probably snoring away, so he decided to go back to sleep. I can't believe we all slept from 2-5! Wow!Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-5316169566764010452012-06-07T18:20:00.002-07:002012-06-07T18:20:56.014-07:00Day 29 and 30Last night Matthew fought me. He made up every excuse in the book. He made me lose my patience and my temper. But eventually he went to sleep. He slept until 5 and came in bed for snuggles. Tonight was a similar story with Roland, but it looks like he's asleep now. Fingers crossed it sticks.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-10979648252690246372012-06-06T13:52:00.000-07:002012-06-06T13:52:12.648-07:00Day 28Matthew seems to be waking up again. His door was open when I went up to bed (I thought I heard something), but the kiddo was still in bed. He woke up only once and ended up sleeping on our floor. Day 28 Roland did bedtime and it seemed to go easy. He woke up last night at 12 am crying and eventually came into our room. I thought some water would help, but he really just wanted a snuggle. So I caved and gave him a snuggle in the glider and put him back to bed. Tonight I get to do bedtime again and Roland is at a condo board meeting, so I have no back up. Fingers crossed.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-81690760358816329772012-06-04T18:06:00.001-07:002012-06-04T18:06:27.571-07:00Day 26 & 27Roland did bedtime for day 26. It all went very smoothly. Matthew said "bye" at the end of the bedtime routine and that was it. He woke up crying twice last night and Roland went to get him. Not quite what I wanted, but Matthew wasn't coming into our room. Maybe he had nightmares?<br />
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Day 27 was my turn. We were watching a movie that I couldn't seem to drag Matthew away from. Eventually I convinced him to say goodbye to Daddy and go upstairs. He seemed to be falling asleep during book #2, but he woke right back up to brush his teeth. I gave him extra snuggles after the song and then he hopped into bed, I covered him up and kissed him goodnight. So far it's sticking. I'm just glad bedtime didn't involve any screaming this time. Fingers crossed for a good night.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-75020558066799981572012-06-03T05:32:00.001-07:002012-06-03T05:32:54.814-07:00Day 24 & 25Day 23 he slept. He actually slept. Woot! Day 24 bedtime was horrible. He just wanted me to rock him and hold him, but wouldn't go into his bed. There was a lot of screaming. My friend was here, and she eventually rescued me and he fell asleep after 9 pm. He slept. Miracle of all miracles, he slept!<br />
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Day 25 bedtime was horrendous. This time my friend tried to rescue me, but it didn't work. There was just a lot of screaming. I had told him to go into bed or I would go downstairs, then I did, and he screamed. Eventually I went back upstairs, escorted him to bed and rubbed his back until he calmed down. I gave him a kiss and his eyes were open, but I told him I'd be right outside the door. I went downstairs and I didn't hear from him. I think sometime through the night he started crying, but I was half asleep and he never came to see me, so as far as I'm concerned, he slept through the night for the 5th night in a row. Could it be possibly working? I don't want to jinx it, but we might just have something. Fingers crossed.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-14480700196664549262012-05-30T18:05:00.002-07:002012-05-30T18:05:45.767-07:00Day 22 & 23Last night bedtime was a breeze. Roland did a bath and a relatively quick bedtime. Apparently Matthew told Roland "bye" and so he left and came downstairs. We never heard another peep out of him. Not one. ALL night! In the morning, Matthew was awake in his bed, but didn't come to see us. YAY! Progress! Amazing! I love sleep.<br />
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Tonight is a whole different story. Matthew's got a wicked diaper rash going on and has a very sore bum. Poor guy cries through every diaper change. So we did some bare bum time outside while watering the grass, then a much needed bath to get the mud off. After lots of cream, some stories and milk and brushing teeth, we were ready for a song and rocking. Not quite as it turns out. He wanted more bum cream. Ok, fine, I'll bite. More bum cream, then a song and an extra snuggle. After the snuggle, Matthew doesn't want to get into his bed. I held him for a little time longer and explained to him that he needed to go into his bed and mommy can stay for a little bit, or mommy can leave if he doesn't co-operate. I put him in his bed and stayed right beside him. He cried. Then he got out of bed and I left and locked the gate behind me. Roland went up to rescue the situation, but I have little hope of success.<br />
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This is too hard. I'm a few days away from calling in reinforcements. This should be getting easier. We're being consistent, we've let him cry, we've laid down the law, and now he's revolting. Was it the weekend with my parents that screwed him up? Why did last night go so smoothly, but Monday and Wednesday go so badly? Frustrated doesn't even begin to describe what I am right now.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-16614044174638814282012-05-28T17:18:00.003-07:002012-05-30T18:18:01.839-07:00Day 21My turn for bedtime. Matthew is doing nothing but fooling around. He won't stay in bed, he keeps coming up with excuses, he wants to go sleep in my room, so now he's upstairs behind a locked gate and I will only go back up if he calms down and goes to bed. I'm sick of this.<br />
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And now, instead of letting me leave Matthew to cry, Roland has gone up and is trying to reason with him. I wish he would just stay on the same page as me and stop undermining me at every turn. Time to go and set things straight. I told Roland to stop undermining me (he was sitting IN Matthew's room), covered Matthew up, gave him a kiss and closed the door and gate behind me. Hopefully that's the end of it.<br />
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And the ridiculousness continues. After over an hour of ridiculousness I gave in and rocked him to sleep. Le sigh.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6062594378961965263.post-32000467458255675112012-05-28T07:08:00.001-07:002012-05-28T07:08:46.374-07:00Day 20My parents picked Matthew up on Friday at 12 and left for the weekend so we could go to a wedding. My parents put his crib mattress on the floor in the guest room upstairs instead of in the basement where it had been. I'm guessing he didn't like the basement because apparently bedtime went well and he slept through the night Friday and Saturday. What the hell kid? Last night Roland did bedtime and it didn't take long for him to fall asleep. Matthew woke up at 2, quietly came into our room, asked for water, then proceeded to bring his pillow and blanket over and slept on our floor until 5:30 when he came into our bed for morning snuggles. I'm crossing my fingers for a good night tonight.Synchrosallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879895978702380073noreply@blogger.com0